10 Commandments for Smart Dating

10 Commandments for Smart Dating.

LADIES !!!

Please, please! It’s imperative that you follow this next commandments !

This will save you a lot of  GRIEF in the dating department !!!!

Browsing through the internet, I came upon this WONDERFUL web site: http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/

of  WONDERFUL  Natalie Lue, the Founder and Writer of Baggage Reclaim.

As I was reading most of her blog posts, I found  “10 Commandments for Smart Dating”. I found it most helpful for that time, when I was seeking advice regarding dating and love.

1. Have BOUNDARIES.

You must tell the man you are currently dating what is permitted and what is not. SPEAK UP !

2. DON’T allow yourself to be treated as an OPTION.

This one it’s kind of tricky… everyone it’s an option at the beginning.  But when time passes and you don’t know where you stand, just ASK him.

3. DON’T let yourself be used for SEX.

Please don’t! You WON’T make him stay with you. He will NEVER want anything serious with you. REMEMBER that !

4.ONLY date with your self-esteem in tow.

Don’t let him treat you like a door mat ! Ladies, please ! You deserve SO much better !

Don’t stay with him if you feel lonely.

5. You MUST share common values with  your partner.

Not similar interests, I mean similar core values, ( Values, allow you to know what is good and bad, and right and wrong about life, both in terms of morals and how you feel about everything around you) otherwise it may not work out.

6.It’s imperative to date beyond your comfort  zone of  “type”.

I’ve done this, I have my “type of man”. All of us have our “type of man” we like to date. But seriously, does it work? Where is he now? Are you two together?

I encourage you to date, the one that it’s not “your type”. He might be the ONE !😀

7.DON’T let your sexual organs make decisions for you.

You must be really stupid if you do ( sorry, but it’s true … )

8. DON’T ever, ever, ever, ever get involved with ATTACHED people !

‘Nuff said.

9. DON’T let yourself be managed via text/email etc…

He must be a REAL JERK if the only communication you have is this ! If he wants to talk to you he goes to your house, calls you to set up a date, anything but this !!!!  Texting is too ambiguous, non committal.

If  he’s too busy to pick up the phone, he’s too busy for a relationship. 

10. Be a person of action and TRUST your gut.

If  the feeling of “he’s using me” is too overwhelming, he probably is. Again, you deserve much better.

_________________

Carmina B.

2 thoughts on “10 Commandments for Smart Dating

  1. Totally agree with this, If you want to change the type of relationships you have had you must start dating different kinds of guys. We tend to relate with guys with the same profile or personality, if you are just dating jerks it’s because you are looking for them, thats what you are attracting, and definitely if you let a guy look at you just for sex, he would never take you out of that category,

  2. Pingback: Signs he’s using you… | Lovely Lonely Hearts

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