Like I said on “10 commandments for smart dating”
If the feeling of “he’s using me” is too overwhelming, he probably is
Here are some obvious signs :
He’s not that interested in getting to know you
He doesn’t want to know about your dreams, interests, family, friends, doesn’t ask questions about you, doesn’t ask about your day-to-day activities etc… Nothing about you, but he always talks about himself.
A man who takes a true interest in most of these aspects will almost certainly respect you and really care with what is happening in your life.
He doesn’t call, text, email often …
And when you contact him, he seems busy and unavailable.
He NEVER contacts you first, and when he does it’s at late hours on the weekends (mmmm….) when everyone else is busy and remembers you.
If he calls really, really late at night and says something like : “ I’ve been thinking about you all day. Dinner tonight ?”… FALSE ! It’s more likely that Girls #1, #2 and #3 on his list turned him down ( you should know better !!! )
LADIES you must be his FIRST priority.
He expects you to meet his needs, but doesn’t really care about yours
It means he does not respects and appreciates you. He MUST put your needs above his.
Reflect on what you do for him and what he does for you… you seem to do much more for him.
He expects you to pay everything
WHAT?! Really? …
He doesn’t want anybody to know you are together
HUGE RED FLAG If the two of you are seen in public and he isn’t affectionate towards you, treats you like a “friend”. And tells you that “we must keep this private”
THERE’S OBVIOUSLY SOMETHING WRONG…
If he doesn’t want people to know then he is either ashamed of having you as his girl ( Girls you are the one’s that should be ashamed to be with this JERK..) or he doesn’t want people to know because you are just “the flavor of the month”
He’s not affectionate or makes you feel special
If he really cares about you, you will know that you’re the only girl on his thoughts.
If he blows you off to meet up with his friends or family (the family excuse is a good one ….. ) he’s possibly using you as a backup plan.
He NEVER compliments you, tells you how beautiful you are to him, how lucky he is to have you, he doesn’t gaze into your eyes, strokes your hair, compliments you on your intelligence, personality, ideas… ANYTHING.
You are wasting your time !
He’s using you to make someone else jealous (extremely immature, I know… )
He needs someone, to show his former lady he is “fine” without her, but that just shows, he is NOT even close to be over her.
So when his purpose is complete, he will stop contacting you often or cease contact and simply disappear. Either he got back together with the girl or found someone else he really likes.
Do some research about him ! For how long they’ve split up? What are his intentions with you? .
BE CAREFUL, this sort of situation will only cause you heartache and pain.
He doesn’t go out of his way for you
If he’s really interested, he will put some effort into making plans. NOT cancel them.
If he insists you’ll know he’s really interested ( it is a good feeling)
Very different from someone who doesn’t insist and YOU have to ask him out and leaves you wondering if you will hear from him again.
He doesn’t take you out on “actual dates”
If he doesn’t take you out to dinner, to a movie, dancing… anything and you only hang out at his place or yours.
There aren’t any real share moments, just sitting there watching T.V. or doing something else O_O
Or when he tells you to meet somewhere and doesn’t even pick you up at your house (WHAAAT ?!?…) again you are wasting your time !!!
PLEASE find yourself a man who does the COMPLETE OPPOSITE of this !!!